The happiest moments last just a few seconds or minutes in our life and in essence they constitute a kind of premium reward. There are people out there who will never get to that point. At the moment  our body produces its own pleasure opiate. These feelings of happiness might be related to our basic needs such as food, sleep, sex, etc.,  or to the feeling of success and/or a new discovery. But more valuable than these moments of happiness is to live a long fulfilled and comfortable life. The ability or art to live a satisfied life is closely related to our self- consciousness and our self-love. This is not an egoistic principle!!!  To live a satisfied life means to live it without FEAR (of failure, shame, not being loved or appreciated, from presumed inability, and of aging, sickness, loneliness, etc.)

The absence of fear is related to our personality, self-trust and feeling of competence.

We can work with our self-consciousness. Even though initially the results are not that fast, once you are really able to change some of your thought stereotypes - they become permanent.  A person should live its life happy and with responsibility to life itself. Such a person should be able to use the talents given to them naturally, to love themselves, therefore loving others as well. It is important not to succumb to the surrounding manipulating influences, since generally speaking they are subjects of various, often insignificant prejudices. The perfection criteria should be left to each person based on their consciousness and shouldn't be exposed to the opinion of others. Do not forget! Nobody has the right to define the meaning of human perfection!  We must reject such self-proclaimed teachers and should be able to tell them - "I don't care."

The road to the better personal, positive insight consists of several steps. The best thing is to write it down.

1. Motivation elements – what and why I want to change it.
2. Inventory – in your notes write down what do you want, on the other side put down the negative list as well as what do you offer in partners relationship, or at work;  in the following column put down what do you expect from your partner or an employer.
3. Goals establishment– where do I want to go. Warning! The goals must be real and achievable since creating non-real and non-achievable goals might bring you down to more pessimistic outlooks. The good method is enforcing the frustration tolerance aspect, i.e. meaning that something you consider unthinkable and in general extremely limiting your freedom, could be gradually step by step altered. For example, Christmas cleaning would be postponed for January; instead of hot dinner you would serve sandwiches to your family, or take your car to the carwash one week later, etc.